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good morning everybody
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we still have seats up here and you know all the closer you get the
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better this engine is going to be so please join us up here
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and uh i know that there are not to point out that people in the back
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but it's all okay if you need to leave before the station and
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we understand we nobody forces you to be here but we really want to
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include you so please come up here uh_huh yeah don't be shy
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yeah
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please come up here there is more seats we met some new
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libraries it see you in a a groups like that
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we are a lack of men appear lovely ladies maybe
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a gentleman yeah yes there if they say yes
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luckily for how my role here today it's basically ah
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being the link between you and molly
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and uh uh not that it's really necessary um but i'm here
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my name is anne i'm a professional facilitator and moderator
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and i'm i'm just going to be trying to support
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molly it the best of my ability but um when i met molly um
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i certainly did not have the feeling that she needs help at all
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sees the kind of person that wanna help others i kept her name is hobby molly harvey
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and for some strange we reason i keep ah getting his picture
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of her calling he because it reminds me of a halo
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she has this low over for many reasons that
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you will discover yourself but maybe also because
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she's a board member of the global angel foundation that's
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just perfect for uh_huh but there's something about molly
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she immediately tears down your walls and you open up in other words i
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think molly had me at hello but molly molly hobby it is
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what woman and she has and essence of making sense and meaning
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two people call things she makes it simple well for the individual but also for businesses
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and luckily she spread these words he had he not
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all over the world and he's written eight books
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and several c. d.'s apart cats by her hand as well
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she's a generous person and she shares the life experience
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and today she will share some of them would you um before
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i'm only a comes on states we have a little film for you but uh and then
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uh she probably the person of wouldn't it be better applause but more a numbers
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they went to comes in 'cause he's all that molly a hobby or or
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no
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so
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from
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damn
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shady which is an attitude of mind that takes place with
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inside ourselves there's no one common to rescue you
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so for the next hour and fifteen minutes i'm gonna cover three
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points and the three points are all round be accountable
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pay attention and small steps every day you know
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i'm a very ordinary bowman i'm me if an extraordinary life
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and the reason why i haven extraordinary noisy face
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because it's the choices that we made
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every day is we're the extraordinary happens and
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actually i always say extraordinary ordinary
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and it's all wonderful to see such a diverse group of people
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men and women but i'm really really appealing to the women
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in the audience today and i'm no one i'm sure all the men would back me up
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you know for all the women in the audience today it's time to own your presence all your power
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and all on the whole you are in the world because the world needs all our
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voices right now and it's time for all of us to give up our excuses
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i don't tell you many the stories of some of the excuses i have in my
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life but i'm curious can additional fans whole ever uses the excuse i start tomorrow
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that whole ever uses the x. games on too tired
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it's a text uses all ever uses the excuse all we did that
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before and it didn't work and it's not gonna work now
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so here's the forced to put the day the first thing i wanted to do was when you go home
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'cause i like making things very very easy to do i
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want you to get a glass jar and it's really
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great to do this if you have young children rest get a glass jar put it on the kitchen table
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i'm for twenty one days i want you to watch yourself and
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all the excuses that you leave get in the way
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both business and life and every time there's excuse comes all i wanted
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to write a piece of paper controlled into the glass jar
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feel that ass jar and after twenty one days into the glass jar on the kitchen table
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and they in you would begin to see the excuses that you're using it again and
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again and again to stop you stepping for to
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view greatness because everybody on the planet each
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of us have are all a new meek are all new meek colon or footprint
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to bring to the pan us so let's get started and myself are going to work with you i want everybody to stand
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up i'm gonna stand up here and talk to you for the are now for together okay i want us to help
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find somebody to walk with the roman that i'll tell you what we're gonna do okay
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of course all enough of try try and fine perhaps ad pricing you never met before
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are not a colleague or your best friend woke up with a new parser
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i wish that's so id need a partner raise your as if you're missing while
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all that
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right yeah fine each other yeah yeah to enter out yes
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okay well i wanted to talk to your partner
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well gotta bonding i wanted to share with your partner losses than one next to
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you is that you left to get in the way this year golfers
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uh_huh
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excuse me
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ah
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and ah
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sh sh and this is where we get to to make it a
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little bit deeper you might already gathered by my accent i
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was brought up in southern ireland and i was told by my
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grandmother that we can deeply connected with another human being
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and how we say we can make to nine and is we look in the eyes and
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we look at the eyes is being the launching pad to the heart and the
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heart is the launching pad to the soul and a deep connection happens so this time
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i wanted to look at your partner no one should just say you know once
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i'm sol don with these excuses golfers
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sh should
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and then stage of this exercise is something that i do in organisations
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across the board because it's great here to day when you're in
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the energy and the high energy of everybody here in the room to
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say you know what i'm really gonna give up those excuses
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that used to be me for years you know why because i always thought i was
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big boned me more that was big big grandmother was like be like a
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break as a night tortuous big boned and about two months ago i was on
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stage in whatever way i looked at my race site horse race race
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so i've been making all these years you know so i know couldn't use that anymore
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so this is what the person that you have jules shared space and time
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with right now i want to be able to be your accountability party
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they're going to be your accountability body onto the cold this excuse i
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don't care if you emailed them tax them make them every day
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yeah i yeah it's
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it's
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you wanna say something
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uh_huh do
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yeah
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or
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oh okay
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um actually i need you to uh get up again
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sorry just because i think i'm gonna go up here so i can see you
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and i need molly because it's small exercise we know that happen it's
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we're really good at doing things that we used to 'cause we is ah automatically we just do that
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and um in order to change something we really have to make an effort
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and our pay attention so this little exercise first we're gonna do the an easy one
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you'll go around and say hi to enter people around you and just
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say hi i'm and i'm ali okay that's pretty easy that's already
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automatic pilot so us say hi to a lot of people just pretending
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stretch out you are do this so your name please do that a couple of times easy to use it
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oh okay thank you know
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sorry
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there there's probably
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can i have your attention i guess i'll up that you wanna say hi to a lot of people
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oh i said well i
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and now
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next step is you need to do something else now
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you do again you agreed with your name and say hi man on molly okay now i'd go out into the world
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and now i'm not anymore i have to pay attention that now i'm only
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so the next person i read i say hi i'm molly and eyes what name would you what your names are
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robert i think i'm molly and and now i'd i get your name and your molly
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alright so that you really have to look into the person's i. m. pay attention
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and you change an old habit have to switch off autopilot and remember the names
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of the people you meet you get a little confused but that's okay we're
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gonna go watch what names with every time you made a new person you
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swap names giving the one you just happen alright give it a go
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f. five
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uh_huh
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yeah
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h.
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thank you you may step down
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then yeah i you know end up having your name back
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yes you got your name back alright uh i don't want the levy also gets a frantic but the um
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how many personalities on uni aims did you uh managed to remember and
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how did it go you good five five difference was it difficult
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i've simple thing like this but the key is to be present and pay attention
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so the first step i'd like to speak to you about just about be accountable
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i learned to those accountability very very young as i said to you i
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grew up in certain on and a group and uh countries stays
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owned by lower teleport ever suffered no my father wasn't the
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lord my father worked with the horses for the lord
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but i never forget that day i was just about to get into the horse box
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and my mother came running up the road after me and she came running and she said loci
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i want to tell you something she said the doctor has advised me to ten new
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that daddy has probably less than six months to live well the game changer for me my father
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was my hero and something inside me knew that my life would never be the same again
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but i also knew when that moment even though i was a young child i knew that
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i could make a choice and the choices either i could make something of my life
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or i could get really angry and i decided to make something of my life
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and i know that each of you sit in the audience right now
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will all come across choice points in her life and we
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this choice points in our life or more colourful work to do something to do something different and sometimes
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i see it's like you're so we'll comes knocking on the door and says we call we cope
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and sometimes we don't wake up then but then it'll come back again and again and
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again it might come back and it'll come knocking banging complete knocks the door down
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but i want you never to forget something that every
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mine's seconds you get to me can you choice
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so if the choice you made nine seconds ago wasn't the right choice that's
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okay every nine seconds you get to
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make a new choice i'm
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i actually believe we come into this world what i call an invisible pack
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and that's we rule one as we develop backpack becomes filled with the local to life
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yeah i can look at it you all here in the audience and i can
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see that some of your very good again the backpack off and emptiness
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and more of your not you not only have the backpack you the two suitcases as well
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yeah i noticed that when you see people and they're just absolutely bowl down
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the one she if you take nothing else away from today
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and wanted to remember this yesterday ended last night
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how many of us take our yesterday's into today how many of us take our
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last year's into today how many of us take ten years ago into today
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our wars still how matt if this leave people live rent free and our hand
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oh we put it right free and i had a more thinking also also said
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that about me in their thinking this net thinking that you know a lot
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the too busy thinking about themselves most of the time and then we leave
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the excuses cash in the way and then we start to place small
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i'm saying oh no wendell in fact right now i want you to turn to the
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person next to you stand up again just towards the person next to you
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i'm just say to them it's possible with
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i talk to them i think because i think it's it's a morse all busy being busy
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you know i know as and people say all happy theo you molly really really busy
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i going nicely busy no you must be really busy can't be doing well if you're not really busy
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i know it's it's with these pain conversations have you know just
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ten conversations where you meet somebody and there's not one whole side of it
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you know we miss and so little is anybody there here i give you my business card but i'm really not there
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no no no no no i want to packed as for the rest of this convention
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of that when somebody gives you the on or of get new their business card
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that you stop you stand back you pause and you can make it
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you can make it's not with the clay but if you connect with the
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essence of the presence of the person that's in front of you
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it's not how many cards that you give out that matches that this convention it's how many people are you
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being connected with afterwards and actually able to reno for
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email and say gee nobody was really genuinely lovely
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to me chew and have a conversation with you you know right now we're starved
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we're living in the world of the three c.'s connection collaboration in community
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but yet there's too many thirteen conversations around i don't
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want you to really pay attention to those conversations
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and and so already used to pay attention pay attention pay attention
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no look at the individual that you're connecting with i
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want you to look on the real evidence need to them
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you know want you are full the possibility go first
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so i guess i'm curious
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when you said tells wards your fall a possibility was the more the connection yeah
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till today and that's the connection that's the invisible presence the invisible aces
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of what you are and that's why it's so
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important i repeated again because repetition repetition repetition
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creates extraordinary results and that's why it's important
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to own your power on your presence
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and on your medicine as men and women it's still important to cases
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uh_huh
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if yeah
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so after be accounted but i'd like to talk again
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and again and again about pay attention because right
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now when the war and i think as we move to twenty twenty and twenty twenty five
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it's really important as leaders in each and every one of you in
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the room either heaters and the seals of your room job
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where you really excel is when you have stuff and that you look after teams and you encourage them
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to be the seals the wrong jobs in the room lights that's when your work is done
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and the pay attention pieces so important because it's about being self away or and and
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said that was you know when you get the colour each tool will come round
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with self awareness of the world and pay attention you will notice everything that's going on
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around you because i'm telling you now you don't you know the allies house
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to noise houses do they don't run all over the island do
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they get in the bolts into short no they don't
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they stand still and all the boats coming so lost if you were to
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work on your business not so much about the doing but the penis
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of bring in your presence to every to mind bringing your
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presents to your internal customer cave in your organisation
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and also most importantly pretty new essence of your prices hole to your partner
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and your husband in the evening because i believe you know leadership is a behaviour have to give it
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you don't just switch it on when you go into the workplace isabel to hold of your life
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all day but pay attention
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because i've noticed there's three types of viruses out there in the world today
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and i'm curious to see have you noticed any of these viruses the forced
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virus and nine you'll have to hurt me oh sure 'cause i
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might say the irish way yep i say the force fire is is
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the mole warning when jane so one what would you say
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you know when genius though you know why i mean yes
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like whining she was actually sent me nobody know what we nation is molly it's called the n. w. virus
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so the morning when gene and cause of the morning whining virus okay so i learnt about that
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because i'm very close to my mother person aren't we talk so much about the weather
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and every time she brings me in the forced few seconds she tells
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me how many is that in the village that's the first thing
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and of her actually charlie said hello and then the next thing she's time is how bad the weather is
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but she doesn't know that i've spoken to my sister who lives up the road in the next election she's told
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me that this on this with the stones um so that's the morning when gene virus the m. w.
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virus and i've seen it a grabs a hold of a soul noun again where we like to encode mode
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in a good when you should know that that's not so bad because i ain't how reach that
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once you do something about washers but the next virus is illegal in organisations
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and it's also only include if you suffer from us it's the p.
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n. w. virus and all it's not the b. m. w. car
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it's not that carries the teaching moaning when judging virus
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or the morning lining virus that's the deadly one
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i mean that's what i suppose keeps me working in organisations across the world
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that's sad because we start moaning we stop when jean we start can
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complacent but it's dangerous i've seen it on rec great teams
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i've seen it will rake great dreams and i mean car ha knew that when
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you see that or if you do see that happening in your organisation
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that you actually pay attention and you say you know the ash
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that you know that to be true and you put a stop to wash 'cause i always say you know want if we can't
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be kind don't say anything it can't be kind don't say anything
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pause or when somebody comes to me and they mall mold
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mold mold mold in general statements that that's interesting uh_huh that's where
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it ends that's interesting and the looking going all palm ah
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young going yeah interesting or or here's a really good one but i heard from michael that was here in the states
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and he just got so fed up of the b. m. w. going on that used to say to people
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of facts stand up 'cause you're gonna say to somebody different right now get somebody different to work with
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oh okay
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you got you gotta save come on let's do it here
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i'm doing mine vibration i've coffers i'm minding my vibration
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oh
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i guess not well at all and to you again
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from yeah
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so are actually i got back into our place and just say it on it to my mike vibration
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and then run away most of life's lessons i've learned from my mother and i call back
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again to my mother was a very young woman when daddy died she was thirty six
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she three young children i was the oldest and youngest was three years of age
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and i remember about twelve months after daddy died she came home one day and she
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noted and remember thinking what's happened is still very young but i thought that's happened
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and she got to the dentist she had at the strips all stressed out
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daddy dying that actually she got a gum disease so the
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two colour t. that which was fine on to it
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i mean i used that hard to eat stayed in the morgan the bathroom
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and in our land we live our lawson bungalows and they have like
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these lolita places in the back sherman and they were in the morgue in the batter and
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they all eek a mouse and went into warm out for weapons christians of young girls
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um now that didn't really matter to really matter it didn't bother me on 'cause i remember i
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got about eighteen nineteen years of age i don't want to bring the whole my first boyfriend
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so i said to my mother i said mommy 'cause we call mommy's mommies and ireland i
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said mommy i'm bringing home my first boyfriend please can you put your teeth in
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i don't ask me because when she went to eat they had come out because she never boredom such
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couldn't use them to eat that's another story okay so lot anyway she put the tape the them
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and i remember she pulled me aside and she said to me i wanna have a board with your eyesight one
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she said one day you will realise you do need
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your sheet to be real i i've never ever
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forgotten that from that moment as an eighteen year old girl i thought journal lot ah i can just be
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the paste me and that's what i'm seeing to each and every one of you everyone else is taken
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and too often i hear people worrying about this one's doing and that
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one's doing and what they're doing over they are and they're doing
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in that chapter no no no no no if you take nothing
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else away from today take your energy attention and focus back
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on your own life your own organisation and your own teams and where
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you can make the difference a that's the biggest word of
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advice i can give you standing up here today take that attention
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energy and focus take it back i okay so paying attention
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let's now move on to the excuses again so this
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time i wanted to move right across the room
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and get up and get out of the comfort zone and you're gonna need somebody to work with
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when you find the moment should think about that excuse you shared at
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the beginning with someone and i wanted to share with somebody else
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what are the triggers that triggers off cash excuse
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so let me give you an example because then i'm gonna give you something when you've done that
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on how you can over comments i used to love the glass of wine between five and seven o'clock
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another nice fuzzy between five and seven o'clock i couldn't care less than eight o'clock nine o'clock four
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o'clock couldn't hear put between five and seven o'clock i enjoyed it massively and then a total who
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was a fireplace this last applying still had a wine glass up agenda for our image you
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see what i did i switched so i was able to break habits of a glass of wine between
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five and seven o'clock is just very simple but remember that's what it is small steps over
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time create remarkable results on they'll want you to go find somebody to work with and shay or
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what you think the triggers are around that excuse that you shared earlier on golfers uh_huh uh_huh
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or do you want to bring anything in here
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great thank you
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huh
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do you wanna take care of it then
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just just to help you a little bit if you don't know what that trade
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areas it is air situation you're an
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every apparent situation that you discover
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if
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yeah
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yep
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i just wanted to get a
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uh_huh
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okay
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i know okay
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okay it's
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uh_huh
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mm mm
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i i i it was the non or to stand here
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and just feel the balls and the room is a new language in the
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world right now and that language is the language of authenticity transparency and
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honesty it's emerge and hope true everything else and the border disruptive or
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that we're living in and it was lovely to just stand on
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the stage and just feel the genuine mess up the shearing that was happening
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in this room and thank you because you see when we get
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the car reach to share your or excuse us um what she notices
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take this number for the excuse or the excuses to hide anymore
00:41:54
excuses like you to stay silent and they like to defeat shame over them and
00:41:59
feed the tool for them and feels sadness whatever that excuses in your
00:42:03
life but you know just that we actually get the courage to talk about
00:42:08
it you get somebody to be your accountability body comes out to the
00:42:13
noise comes out to the lies and one very very simple technique that i use
00:42:24
and not to over calm excuses and actually she's just reasonable composers man
00:42:29
robin's as read the book called the five second rule anybody read okay i
00:42:35
can i can give it to you in less than five seconds
00:42:40
the five second fruity so if you got a pen and a piece of paper from here ronnie and take
00:42:45
your pains in your paper those papers uh on one of the jurors in your little circle so
00:42:58
and if you have a pen if you have more than one pale peach to share with uh other people
00:43:08
yeah if anybody's missing at penn plea if raise your hand
00:43:14
and we will see anybody would like to share opinion
00:43:18
have an extra we'd idea to get an extra pair they
00:43:22
really are very here yeah thank you handed it okay
00:43:31
y'all get yeah so matt robin's to uh i did a lot of research on this
00:43:37
and it's so simple but remember simple works and the five second rule is
00:43:44
that a great time your excuse kicks in a or
00:43:50
it might be your tending to procrastinate so or
00:43:53
you get overwhelmed in your day you can use it for many different things you stop yourself
00:44:00
i knew goal five four three two one
00:44:06
and you move backwards five four
00:44:10
three two one um what happens what psychologists have begun to
00:44:15
relies is what happens is our brain is like
00:44:18
i'm a big t. v. station and there's so much taking your brain at one time but actually
00:44:27
when you feel a sense of overwhelmed more when you feel a sense of that excuse coming on you
00:44:32
you stop when you go five four three two one um what happens is you just rocked
00:44:38
it's like you turn off your brain you turn off the television and
00:44:43
then you turn it back on again it's control delete that's it
00:44:48
that's it and sell actually i have five
00:44:53
four three two one right in
00:44:57
on my desk uh_huh and i use it for all sorts of things
00:45:03
so for instance sometimes in my day have you ever been at your
00:45:06
desk and the day and you just lose concentration you lose focus
00:45:10
and i go five four three two one and then i say to
00:45:15
myself i should not be put my energy and attention on right
00:45:19
now on the business would we need to put my energy and attention to so that's i use it on a business level
00:45:26
procrastination i put in the wrong here ah just curious ever ever
00:45:30
suffered from chronic procrastination oh okay you ready for a challenge
00:45:37
his party tape procrastination die use starting today
00:45:43
so for the next thirty days you've you you make a promise yourself to do something
00:45:49
different for the next party days in could be anything it just might be
00:45:57
that if you're not so good on social media you say you're
00:46:00
not gonna learn something new tomorrow but you stretch yourself
00:46:05
but party day is you brings something different into your life it doesn't
00:46:10
have to be big because remember small steps all over time creation
00:46:14
remarkable results so i mean it could be either stop doing something or
00:46:21
start doing something you absolutely yeah stop doing or start doing
00:46:26
so in fact actually thank you and for mention the stop doing
00:46:30
'cause i'm curious people used to do only still today i
00:46:38
okay how many p. but here in the room how to stop doing list
00:46:45
ah if you take him well yes and you put that into your business i came across it
00:46:54
in dallas in two thousand wanted changed my business
00:47:03
if we don't stop doing some of
00:47:07
this stuff for doing we won't even be in business by twenty twenty twenty twenty five i
00:47:14
stop doing laced his soul so important why because we're creatures that have recently and
00:47:22
most of us probably the planet than change always say we change but actually would rather leave the planners
00:47:29
so i think part region you to bring that stop doing leased
00:47:36
into business the need to live why because um for
00:47:43
anything new to come into your life what we have to do big space and how can you makes space
00:47:52
if you're still doing some of the things that don't even work
00:47:56
anymore i so i go back again just for a
00:48:02
moment the five four three two one that's a great take
00:48:08
five second rule how to break excuses by the way
00:48:13
and i think that i'm sharing with you here and the stage i just wanted to
00:48:17
know i leave it in my own life i will not stand on the
00:48:22
stage if i haven't done it or i'm not currently doing it myself okay so
00:48:30
we're paying attention more paying attention we're paying attention here's another very simple exercise
00:48:37
i want you to get a blank sheet of paper 'cause i. c. u. ward of
00:48:40
paper in front of you all want wanted to draw a line down the middle
00:48:45
it's a very simple exercise that you can continue after
00:48:50
and then myself i've worked with you today it's called contrast
00:48:54
to clarity and it's very simple but very very powerful
00:49:01
and and i'm just check in isn't there an output all the download of some of the
00:49:06
and out and out notes will be in the conference back in
00:49:11
the cap thank you uh_huh okay on the left hand side
00:49:16
i'm going to give you a few moments we're gonna have silence in the room silences good i'm gonna
00:49:23
give you feel moments that on the left hand side i want you to write at least
00:49:28
of the excuses and the things you no longer want in your
00:49:32
life go for it right now and and we'll just
00:49:36
walk around the room and maybe i will as well as so just make
00:49:40
a list of what things that you're done with and still don't
00:49:44
when they some sort don't but this excuse i saw on to like
00:49:47
this girl in my life right down make at least personally
00:49:53
and professionally i uh_huh uh_huh uh_huh i i i i i i'm i
00:50:29
i i i i i i i i i i i i
00:51:08
and again this is in your own time take your time but i
00:51:11
can see that some people are finished there's no washes arteries
00:51:16
those that are finished i wanted to move to the right hand side of the page
00:51:20
and i wanted to just the whole was and just think about what do i want
00:51:27
so that's what you don't want to you want to be very clear i i i i don't
00:51:41
think it's important to say i saw some play pieces of paper i think that's only natural
00:51:47
'cause we all work and operate works in different speeds so up being this like just plain to see
00:51:54
so you things might pop up tonight or in three days time so don't panic i i i
00:52:12
i i'm also where the time sharing a lot of different tunes and on my set of tools and
00:52:19
strategies because we wanted to give you as much as we possibly could see so you know
00:52:25
if you just find one of them that works you know that's what it's all about i i i
00:52:42
i i i i i i i i i i also i would encourage you that you
00:53:13
can go back and do that simple exercise again and again and again would be very interesting to
00:53:20
look six months from today to look and see i used to doing some of those things
00:53:27
you no longer wanted in your life or have you actually start doing them so be interesting
00:53:33
to go back and look at us because sometimes we don't rely is that actually
00:53:38
we've got no what we don't want before we know what we want and that's why it's called contrast to
00:53:48
clarity and is there anything you'd like to have it i was just curious just small survey here
00:53:57
which part of this exercise did come easier to you the first part the things
00:54:06
that you would like to stop did i raise of hands it was
00:54:14
that easy uh that was the easiest part of things stop or new things
00:54:20
to do in that fifty fifty as mm mm body equally easy
00:54:28
well you can really hard but okay i mean which brings me on to something else that wasn't going to talk
00:54:38
about but i just mention who here in the room puts thinking time into their diary that business diary
00:54:45
wow all i'm empowered to see if you hands coming up here fabulous i want because so
00:54:54
many of us were like hamsters on the wheel we're going going going going going
00:54:59
how can you be creative how can you get those new
00:55:03
ideas if you don't want to leave pondered timers
00:55:07
thinking time column in to your diary and night you
00:55:11
got to not mention anybody have that time
00:55:15
that's when you step back in you step evolution you look into the business
00:55:20
and you ask yourself all those questions my thinking time is the early
00:55:26
morning which now one moving into watch at the small steps
00:55:33
one of the small steps every day and it started off with early morning
00:55:38
i became a member of what i call the five oh five job some matter where i am of the board
00:55:43
i'll wake up at five o. five i'm a big yeah and with because
00:55:49
i too small children um and i run a company that's how
00:55:53
it started that was the only me time that was the only thinking
00:55:56
time i got so i'm curious how many early morning rises here
00:56:01
quite a few great um by that he put it that that the people or not
00:56:05
so ah early morning nine current due to sexual talk talk twenty minutes earlier
00:56:13
why because how use start your day is how you
00:56:17
leave your day uh_huh how you start your
00:56:22
day is how you live your date if you rush out into the morning think about yours
00:56:27
you're finding your spending the rest you're doing washing catching oh where is if you have that half
00:56:33
an hour an hour in the morning that thinking time for me that's a tiny step
00:56:38
and that business that had this may be the best i can be i'm bringing the essence
00:56:44
of my presence to everybody um easy everyday so that's why i'm in college uh new
00:56:50
in the small steps to really really have that morning time
00:56:55
have that morning time and here's another quick exercise that's souls soul important it's a
00:57:03
small step but it's something i'm is that there's a thousand my life
00:57:07
i want you to write down the three to five people that just hang around with most
00:57:12
of the time twenty four hour forty h. r. bases just like the names down
00:57:18
three to five people by the way if you don't have five people don't get depressed
00:57:22
i said yeah and when i spoke to especially when you're all company then that company but
00:57:30
means down three to five people maybe in your teammate work or whatever that we
00:57:35
that inspire here that you can share the goals with the mission the vision you know that you
00:57:41
can share i remember been asked that question way back in two thousand and three in arizona
00:57:48
i was actually jack canfield asked me most of her to the park chicken soup for
00:57:52
the soul and jack pulled me aside to me said money at the motion you
00:57:57
motion around the place over the last two three days he said i'm curious i'm curious
00:58:02
is said come on what the trees invite people to spend your time what
00:58:05
message does that matter is that money that's tenement where you would be he said
00:58:12
three six ten years down the line because this is the next part
00:58:18
you've got the names down yeah three to five people now on a scale of one
00:58:22
to ten eight nine ten i mean really got anything below five is crap
00:58:28
okay mark them where are the on a scale of one to ten for incorporation you empowering you at the code
00:58:34
to be around be honest we don't have to share this by the way 'cause see somebody going oh dear
00:58:40
i wasn't up in january this year numbers on stage in a gentleman at the back of the room we said
00:58:45
all money places that time ape the mother in law she got two and a half block like do
00:58:52
i said don't go around every sunday only go around once a month i wanted to write this sentence down
00:59:01
we become what we've coffee with then and said to me when i asked really some
00:59:05
haven't coffee but no one at the moment okay but please pay attention to that
00:59:12
you'll be calm whole you'll have coffee with him i am nothing
00:59:22
more on this stage the product of great people around me
00:59:26
great role models people who stretch me all the time asked me the hard questions
00:59:34
you know in college those people to be in your life if
00:59:38
it's really really important and you want to add anything there
00:59:45
i'm thinking uh this is uh in in denmark we have a say in
00:59:51
that when it becomes perhaps a little too um for the long here re you know
00:59:59
the expiration interview don't know that that is this going to be oh this is
01:00:04
he be kind of lie style you have an it's all hard in though
01:00:09
so i actually have a question for you i'm thinking that might be in your head as well as like
01:00:16
do you get the attention of c. o. wasn't leaders all
01:00:21
over the world and do they take this in
01:00:24
as the this this advise not just the personal put do they use this that's a great question um
01:00:32
i would hope so well i think so and there is the c. e. o. and the audience there's mister nailing down there
01:00:39
so you've heard me speak many many times and i've worked in your
01:00:44
company do you think they take it serious yes okay thank you
01:00:51
sorry but thank you and um ah i would hope so and i actually when i
01:00:57
i spend a lot of time working with c. e. o.'s i spend my life on the trash or by the way half of the design organisations
01:01:04
and the other half is as you saw with the clipper walked on stage working with the
01:01:08
indigenous communities across the board and i would say that this c. d. o. was
01:01:15
whole why would say are outstanding eaters is not enough to be just
01:01:19
graze anymore records data be outstanding i'd say they're the ones
01:01:24
that really pay attention they're already paying attention to what i'm sharing
01:01:28
with you today and specially on the three to five people
01:01:34
because very often those c. e. o.s will also have i'm in england we
01:01:40
call it at this stage of a nice group and you know
01:01:43
you have it came here where you're where where you're always working with
01:01:48
somebody on the level of you wanna both you just straight she'll
01:01:52
and she are good packed s. a. and and that's run core region you to do i'm
01:01:59
not talking about levels as in all your patient than me or anything no no no
01:02:03
i don't believe in any of that but i believe that we'll have knowledge to share a
01:02:10
boat to share that knowledge we have to not just here we have to listen
01:02:16
'cause a lot of us don't listen today we don't here we only this is what we want to hear
01:02:22
and that's a whole game in itself that we are active listening and that's another small step
01:02:28
so let me give you some tape some the small steps every day which is the third point
01:02:33
and these uh some of these uh business tips to and this is something of what i've
01:02:38
i suppose pink top of five as i've travelled aboard the forced is
01:02:42
i find that people that are really focused in in their business
01:02:47
they generally their week starts on the sunday night and you're all going walks
01:02:53
sunday night they said ten minutes side no more than ten minutes
01:03:02
and they stop and they get the diary oh sure if you do
01:03:06
it on your computer whatever and then they say oh okay
01:03:09
what should the three things i need to chief by next friday night see what i mean you'd be there before you get there
01:03:17
so one sunday night ten minutes what are the three things
01:03:22
i need to do before next friday night the other thing is to do lists are all hash
01:03:28
it's about significant place significance a priority this why did
01:03:34
i say that i say that because it's
01:03:38
what are the two to the three things each day that you've got to get you've got to achieve because we can
01:03:44
also for for more when today and then the to do list comes in and number three everything else yeah
01:03:50
but why should the forced want to to the things that
01:03:53
i must achieve in this state always always have your
01:03:57
if you're just doing it to do list i'd really encourage you anybody a
01:04:01
coach i say to them always do that lists the day before i
01:04:06
so you have the night time to start thinking about should never ever do
01:04:11
would and when you just sit down each desk in the morning
01:04:14
do it the day before these are very tiny little paintings but is
01:04:18
the t. yeah he's the tiny little things that make a difference
01:04:24
with the excuses calming in or with how we run our lives so remember it's you know the week
01:04:32
starts on sunday night not more than ten minutes or so the three things you want to achieve
01:04:37
and then every day what are the two to the tree things i need to change that day
01:04:43
and then there's a real game changer that i know of i actually
01:04:47
forced her departure from robyn chandler it's called the ninety ninety rule
01:04:52
so the night a roommate nineteen ninety room leads for the force nineteen minutes off that day
01:04:59
you work on that task you keep putting off yeah you said you get your full when you
01:05:07
said that clark and you work on that task can you imagine how empowered you would be
01:05:13
can i shoulder to shoulder hands how many people in the room start their day
01:05:18
but their face broke their linked in the fall when everything so they probably
01:05:25
get up around abortion instead of good morning darling i love you know they're going
01:05:29
good morning they spoke good morning linked in and it's by the bed
01:05:34
um oh he tension why because what you give your energy
01:05:43
attention and focus too is we're your life is going
01:05:48
what's stealing your time away what's stealing your energy way always i'm not saying that all of
01:05:54
this isn't about it's cooled but for some of that's it's rolling or not if
01:06:00
you know i worked at a seal about two years ago when when i went to
01:06:03
work at age seventy two blocks and i'm a morning person molly hard when
01:06:06
i said that's great tell me more she said when i get up in the
01:06:10
morning like you do she said very early what do you do then
01:06:13
i go downstairs i poke indicated she said and i turn on my laptop
01:06:18
you turn on your laptop yes i said to my
01:06:22
email this okay how do you feel by
01:06:28
but you feel by seven o'clock i cannot seem to stage how she feels okay particular days okay
01:06:37
i said to or okay let's change something here
01:06:42
when we work together i'm encouraging you to to just let's do late game changer little we
01:06:47
frame instead of you working on your emails first thing in the morning was if
01:06:53
you date was if you worked for even sixty minutes you know sixty fifty sixty fifteen
01:07:00
is sixty minutes of focus fifteen minutes for a cup of tea and coffee
01:07:04
or ninety fifteen ninety minutes of focus fifteen minutes for converting
01:07:08
coffee see what i'm doing sector talks that works
01:07:11
you bring focus energy and attention into what you're doing that the small steps
01:07:16
the whole really big game change during your business today within six weeks or staff are saying to me money
01:07:24
money what's happened elaine i said my wishes come into the office nonstop she's talking
01:07:29
she saying good morning why because beforehand what was happening shouldn't open in the
01:07:35
office like this uh_huh pay attention still small steps every day or a difference
01:07:45
actually doing paying so much it and you know about up up up
01:07:51
still i want to and push story
01:07:57
and go back to where i began again in my early days in certain and all
01:08:03
i must've been about fourteen fourteen a half a member campbell school one day
01:08:09
and mommy said to me i need to to leave school
01:08:13
i can't afford for you to stay in school anymore she said you're the oldest one you're gonna have to get out you're going to work
01:08:20
i remember crying of was not i was brainy are very good at school but
01:08:23
i just remember crying 'cause i thought i want to stay it's cool
01:08:28
anyway if i did end up staying it's cool but my mother that day did the best she could
01:08:34
she tore up my books and again i made a choice in that moment and i said
01:08:40
you know what's the day that i earned my own money on control the typical week for the
01:08:45
first half and i'm glad to say standing up your shaving this was an fifty two
01:08:53
and i've read a book week or under non you chew bar whatever stay home but
01:08:59
always be around or what what's the people have always love to read discretion marty
01:09:05
and question marty said this two types of people in this world he said there's family people and there's no ten people
01:09:12
and he said all of us all of us the six opinion close the monsters were barn into the value of life
01:09:20
i'm a born into the valley he says only crawl well he said announcement
01:09:24
will not we see other people had for the mountains we see them
01:09:27
heading for the mountains and then we think i wanna go there one day but somebody comes along and says well you to think like that
01:09:33
don't have notions of of your station put those teams in the bin ever happen to
01:09:38
oh you want to be gore just to be brilliant to beef up our
01:09:44
i many this do we put the dreams and the pain we you
01:09:47
know we stay small we pay small but every now and again
01:09:51
and i know you've all had it now i know you will have a g. f. something inside
01:09:54
you go ha ha it for the mountains had to the mountains and as i look
01:10:00
out here today i know that you're all ready all uh on the mountains in fact you're
01:10:06
not just on the mountains i know you've got oh you've got the little cottage
01:10:14
the white picket fence if even got the chickens you're on the mountains but you know christmas pieces no
01:10:22
on on on on on all your most hinder the chickens yeah that's not the house down whiny
01:10:29
because there's always another mountain there's always another summers
01:10:33
there's always another excuse we'd have to get
01:10:37
over i just want to say be accountable pay attention small steps every day thank you
01:10:54
thank you so much molly
01:10:58
you know what your take aways is going to be here will be very
01:11:02
personal and individual and uh i think this is a record of
01:11:10
tools little exercises if chips good stories
01:11:18
in only um seventy five minutes so i'm kind of blown
01:11:24
away and here's a little piece of advice for me
01:11:28
if you actually miss out of something you will experience more
01:11:33
so take a a out of this session where you really are um
01:11:40
feel that this is important to me and that that little step
01:11:44
then when you're ready begin to the conference back under the notes
01:11:49
and uh could be in there we go to war in a month from now and take up a new frame
01:11:56
because this was a lot a lot of things to
01:12:00
take what you really desire i did you change
01:12:05
oh just stop doing um and i hope that you enjoyed this as much as
01:12:11
i did um thank you so much molly with a great great pleasure to
01:12:16
experience you here i sell now you're ready for lunch but um there's a a
01:12:26
a you will but i have a little problem out in your apt
01:12:29
with uh the uh an evaluation of decision we would love
01:12:34
it to give you feedback it's the only way
01:12:38
bad we are can get better stop doing something we
01:12:42
think is great and start doing something new
01:12:44
so please if take some time it's only for questions and there is a a comment field
01:12:50
so a prefix in trying to do that and um yes
01:12:57
i think that was about it in more note for molly in
01:13:02
the conference back in the add on to the session
01:13:06
and uh thank you have a wonderful day and uh i hope to see

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